Parshas Tetzaveh-Zachor
The Plane Hijacking Was Real!
“You shall make the robe of the ephod of pure blue.” (Shmos 28:32)
I read a story some time ago, but I do not recall the source.
In the 1960’s, it was not uncommon for a plane to be hijacked from Miami to Cuba. On one such occurrence, the hijacker held a knife to the throat of the stewardess in full view of all the passengers. No one screamed and only one passenger was frightened. The hijacker walked with the stewardess to the cockpit. A few minutes later, the hijacker stuck his head out of the cockpit and the passengers began laughing. All, except for one passenger. How were the passengers able to remain calm and even laugh it off? Apparently, the one passenger who was frightened was Mr. Alan Funt. He hosted a show in which unusual situations were staged in public. The funny reactions of unsuspecting passersby were secretly videoed. When Mr. Funt boarded the plane, the passengers recognized him. They thought that the hijacking was not real but, rather, was being videoed in preparation for an upcoming show. Thus, they were not scared and even laughed. Mr. Funt knew that the hijacking was real. As such, he was the only one who was scared.
One who has Bitachon, trust in Hashem, understands that Hashem stage-manages events in our lives, to give us the chance to react properly and be rewarded for our actions. (Rav Yisroel Miller, What’s Wrong With Being Happy)
The Me’il was one of the garments that the Kohain Gadol wore. It was a full-length robe of sky-blue wool. Attached to its bottom hem were 72 pomegranate-shaped tassels and 72 golden bells. The Talmud (Zevachim 88B) says that each of the garments of the Kohain Gadol atoned for a specific sin of the Jewish People. The Me’il atoned for the sin of lashon hara, hurtful speech.
Often, one speaks lashon hara because of a feeling of jealousy. A person is envious of the success, honor, or wealth that his friend has. He feels bad that he is lacking in one or more of those areas. Attempting to make himself feel better, he disparages his friend or belittles his friend to others.
Rav Avraham Pam zt”l (Shabbos With Rav Pam by Rabbi Sholom Smith) points out that a more intense jealousy can arise between members of a family. Yosef Hatzadik was appointed as second in command to Pharoah. There was a terrible famine in the land of Canaan. Due to the famine, Yaakov asked his sons, “Why do you make yourselves conspicuous?” (Bereishis 42:1) Rashi explains that although Yaakov had sufficient food, meanwhile, he was concerned. He did not want to arouse the jealousy of the families of Yishmael and Esav who were starving for food. Therefore, Yaakov sent his sons to Egypt to purchase food. Maharsha (Ta’anis 10B) questions why Yaakov was concerned about arousing the jealousy of the families of Yishmael and Esav who did not live in Canaan at that time. Why wasn’t Yaakov concerned about arousing the jealousy of his Canaani neighbors? Maharsha explains that since the descendants of Yishmael and Esav were related to Yaakov, they would feel more jealousy and be angrier if they saw that Yaakov’s family had food while they did not. On the other hand, the people of Canaan were total strangers to Yaakov, Thus, they would feel less envy.
This fact illustrates the greatness of Aharon the Kohain. He was the prophet and leader of the Jews in Egypt. Yet, his younger brother, Moshe, was chosen to become the leader in Aharon’s stead. Moshe was chosen to take the Jews from slavery and bring them to freedom. That appointment could have easily made Aharon feel jealous. He could have felt, “I was the leader for so long. Now my younger brother is appointed to take my place?” In fact, Moshe was concerned about Aharon’s feelings. That is why he tried to refuse Hashem’s appointment. Hashem told Moshe that he did not have to worry. Hashem told Moshe that Aharon was such a tzadik, with exemplary middos, that he would not be angry at Moshe. Aharon would not feel even a small tinge of jealousy. In fact, Aharon would feel happy at Moshe’s success (Shmos 4:14).
Since Aharon’s heart was totally full of love and happiness for Moshe, he merited to wear, over his heart, the Choshen, the holy breastplate of the Kohain Gadol.
Jealousy is a “disease” that brings unhappiness in the next world and even in this world. King Shlomo says that it corrodes the inner being of a person and rots his bones (Mishlei 14:30).
One of the best examples of this is the evil Haman. Haman seemed to have everything anyone would want. Haman was one of the wealthiest men ever! His children were successful, having been appointed to high government positions. Haman himself was the 2nd most powerful person in the empire! He was second only to King Achashverosh. Everyone bowed down to Haman, except for Mordechai. Haman had already set into motion the decree to kill all the Jews. He had just left an exclusive party where Queen Esther invited only him and the king. Haman was feeling great! Yet, on the way home he passed Mordechai, who did not bow down to him. What was Haman’s reaction? He told his wife, “All this means nothing to me every time I see that Jew Mordechai sitting in the palace gate [and not bowing down to me]” (Megillas Esther 5:12) Haman had it all. Yet by focusing on the one thing that he didn’t have he got so upset that he could not even enjoy all that he did have.
This is what jealousy does. One can have so much to be thankful for, yet one can get upset because of the sole thing that he lacks.
What is the solution to rid ourselves of jealousy and be able to be happy? The first step is to have the right perspective. We must focus on all that we have and not on what we do not. As it says in Pirkei Avos (4:1) Ben Zoma says,” Who is rich? He who rejoices in his lot.” When we focus on all that Hashem does for us and all that Hashem gives us then we will feel gratitude and will feel happy.
The next step is the realization that Hashem orchestrates everything that happens. Hashem gives us everything that we need to fulfill our personal mission in life. Hashem determines our income, what type of home we will have, our spouse, and our family. Hashem determines how much honor we will receive. If Hashem did not give something to us, then we don’t currently need it! Therefore, as much as we try, we will not get it. Should you be jealous if a jeweler has a jeweler’s loupe and you don’t, if you are not a jeweler? Should I be jealous if you have a stethoscope if I am not a doctor?
Furthermore, Rav Moshe Chaim Luzatto writes in the Mesillas Yesharim that all situations in life are only tests. Hashem arranges the scenery and the actors and orchestrates the events that occur in our lives to see how we will react. The understanding that it is not real should help us overcome feelings of jealousy and other challenges. When we truly have bitachon, trust in Hashem, we realize that every situation is staged by Hashem, just to see how we will respond.
We can be happier when we don’t feel jealous. We can choose to have an “attitude of gratitude”.
We can choose to have a positive perspective, appreciating all that we do have instead of focusing on what we do not have. We need to recognize that Hashem gave us everything that we need to fulfill our mission in life. Furthermore, it is impossible for us to attain anything else that we don’t need for our mission. Lastly, we must realize that all our life’s situations are only tests to see how we will respond.
May we learn these lessons and live lives full of happiness!
