Parshas Korach

More Powerful than…!

“…and Moshe said to Hashem, “Do not turn to their gift offering!’” (16:15)

Chizkiyahu, King of Yehuda, was an extremely righteous king who disseminated Torah among the Jewish nation.  He became deathly ill and the prophet, Yeshayahu son of Amotz, came to him and said, ‘So says Hashem: Prepare your household, for you shall die …!’” Yeshayahu the prophet was informing King Chizkiyahu that a death sentence was already decreed upon him. King Chizkiyahu replied, “Son of Amotz, finish your prophecy and leave! I have a tradition handed down from my ancestors that even if one has a sharp sword laying on his throat, he should not hold back from requesting Hashem’s mercy!” Whereupon, Chizkiyahu turned his face towards the wall and whole-heartedly prayed to Hashem. Immediately afterwards, Hashem reappeared to Yeshayahu the prophet and told him: “Return to Chizkiyahu, … and tell him: ‘So says Hashem, G-d of your father David: I have heard your prayer and seen your tears; I shall heal you! On the third day ascend to the House of Hashem and I shall add fifteen years to your life.’” (Melachim II (Chapter 20)

Korach was very wise and very rich. He experienced prophecy, futuristically seeing that his descendants would be very prestigious. He was a member of the Leviite family of Kehas, the family who was entrusted to carry the holy vessels of the Mishkan. Nonetheless, unfortunately, all of that was not enough for him. He became jealous of Moshe’s appointments of Aharon as Kohein Gadol and Elitzafon as head of the family of Kehas. Hashem had told Moshe to make those appointments. However, Korach’s jealously led him to claim that Moshe had made the appointments on his own.   To bolster his claim, Korach declared that not only did Moshe make-up the appointments on his own, he even made-up some of the mitzvos that he taught them. Korach claimed that the mitzvah of tzitzis made no sense. On a garment of any material, one string of techailes (wool dyed a bluish-purplish color) together with the other strings, would suffice to fulfill the mitzvah of tzitzis. Then, why should a garment made totally from techailes need one extra string of tchailes to be acceptable? Also, why would a room that has a sefer Torah need a mezuzah, in addition? The Torah itself contains the parsha of the mezuzah as well hundreds more mitzvos.

Korach’s pronouncements were very dangerous. He attacked the fundamental belief that the Torah is the word of Hashem. If one would suggest that Korach could have succeeded had he davened to Hashem for success, you would think that person was crazy. How could Hashem accept such a prayer which would undermine Hashem’s own Torah?

Yet, we see something very fascinating. Moshe attempted to make peace by going to the homes of Dassan and Aviram, the other two leaders of the rebellion. Dassan and Aviram rebuffed Moshe and responded with brazenness. Moshe then beseeched Hashem not to accept the korban of ketores that they were going to bring on the following day.

Rabbi Simcha Zissel Ziv Broida, the Alter of Kelm, says we see from this, the tremendous power of prayer. Moshe had to beseech Hashem not to accept their korbanos, representing their tefillos. Had their tefillos been accepted, they would have succeeded in denying that Moshe was teaching Hashem’s Torah. If the Torah was not from Hashem, then they would have succeeded in denying the validity of the Torah itself. The entire Torah would have been nullified!  Moshe was concerned lest their prayers be accepted. Hashem set up the World in such a way that sincere and totally heartfelt prayer is very powerful and has a good chance to be answered, even if the request runs contrary to Hashem’s will. Moshe knew that principle. Therefore, he had to pray to Hashem to counter their prayer.

We see a similar idea in the Talmud (Yoma 53A). When the Kohain Gadol exited the Holy of Holies on Yom Kippur, he prayed for the needs of the Jewish People. One of the prayers was that Hashem should not listen to the prayers of the travelers who had come to Yerushalayim. The travelers were returning home. They prayed to Hashem that it should not rain, which would cause the roads to become muddy, making the travel home very difficult. Rain, however, is important to everyone else, other than the travelers. Rain is needed for drinking water and to help crops grow. Other Jews prayed for rain. Why was it necessary for the Kohain Gadol to add this to his prayers? The traveler’s prayers were totally sincere and from the heart. They understood that only Hashem could help them. Those prayers were so powerful, that the Kohain Gadol’s prayers were needed to counteract them. (based on a dvar torah quoted in Yalkut Lekach Tov.

When we daven to Hashem with a complete heart, and with the realization that only Hashem can help us, our tefillos are very powerful. Even if we do not see the results that we hope for,
due to our powerful tefillos Hashem will help us in some way either now or in the future.

Parshas Naso

Strength in Unity!

“And they [Nesi’im] brought their offering before Hashem: six covered wagons and twelve oxen, a wagon for each two leaders and an ox for each. And they brought them before the Mishkan.” (7:3)
“…They shall be the first to journey” (2:9)

There is a famous story about a father who called his sons to his bedside, as he was nearing death. He gave each of them a stick of wood and asked them to break it, which they easily did. Then he gave each one a bundle of sticks and asked them to break the wood, which they were unable to do. The father wanted to teach his sons the lesson that in unity there is strength. Only when they are unified, like the bundle of sticks, would they have the strength to withstand the challenges of life.

I want to share a beautiful dvar Torah that I read recently.

When the Mishkan was inaugurated, the Nesi’im, the princes of each of the twelve shevatim, brought very generous offerings to Hashem. They each brought twenty-one animals to be sacrificed. They also brought fine-meal offerings in silver bowls and incense in golden ladles. The offerings were brought in six covered wagons that were drawn by twelve oxen. Two Nesi’im shared the cost of each wagon.

If the Nesi’im brought such generous offerings to Hashem why didn’t they bring them in their own individual wagons? Why did each two Nesi’im share the expense of one wagon?

Perhaps the Nesi’im did that to set a very important example for the Jewish People. Each Nasi was given one day to demonstrate his commitment to Hashem. That could have presented the potential for competition and “one-upmanship”. Each Nasi may have been tempted to show that he loved Hashem more than the other one, by bringing a larger and more expensive offering. That could have led to jealousy and fighting which could have spread from the Nesi’im to the entire nation. Instead, they avoided divisiveness. The Nesi’im each brought the exact same offering. In addition, they further highlighted their unity by sharing the cost of the wagons.

This explanation can help us understand a Da’as Zekeinim in Parshas Vayigash (45:27). Yosef had revealed his identity to his brothers and asked them to tell Yaakov that he was still alive. Yosef told them to bring their families to Egypt where he could sustain them during the remaining years of famine. When Pharaoh heard who Yosef really was, he sent wagons to help bring Yosef’s family to Egypt. When Yaakov was told that Yosef was still alive, at first, he didn’t believe it. Only after he saw the wagons that “Yosef” had sent did he begin to believe. Didn’t Pharaoh send the wagons? What does it mean that Yaakov began to believe after seeing the wagons that Yosef had sent? Rashi explains that it doesn’t refer to actual wagons, the agalos. Rather it refers to the last Torah topic that Yaakov had learned with Yosef. They learned the topic of egla arufa, teaching the importance of escorting guests who are leaving your home. Rashi says that the word agalos is similar, to the word egla. When Yaakov saw “Yosef’s wagons”, the message that only Yosef could have known, that proved that Yosef was still alive, not only physically but even spiritually. Then Yaakov’s spirit was revived.

The Da’as Zekeinim questions Rashi’s explanation. He says that agalah is not the same word as egla. Rather, the wagons that Yosef had sent, represented the six covered wagons that would be brought by the Nesi’im when the Mishkan would be inaugurated. It was those wagons that revived Yaakov’s spirit.

How did it revive his spirit? When Yaakov heard that Yosef was still alive, he was happy that the animosity of Yosef’s brothers did not cost him his life. However, Yaakov was still concerned that the animosity of his children would manifest itself generations later. When Yaakov foresaw the wagons that the Nesi’im would bring, he understood that sharing the cost of the wagons was a sign of unity. That showed Yaakov that the Jews can live in peace with each other. That sign of harmony revived Yaakov’s spirit. (based on Rabbi Frand on the Parashah- 2)

We are all part of one neshama. We must show love and brotherhood to every Jew,

even if they are different than we are.

Parshas Bamidbar

Every Jew Counts!

“Those who camp to the front, at the east, shall be the banner of the camp of Yehudah….” (2:3)
“…They shall be the first to journey” (2:9)

Rabbi Chaim Volozhin zt”l, the Rosh HaYeshiva of the Volozhin yeshiva in Europe, ensured that at all times of the day and night, someone in the yeshiva was learning Torah. The Rabbis are quoted as saying that there is a big difference between a king’s palace that has guards constantly watching it and a palace that does not. The Mishkan was like Hashem’s palace. Leviim took turns guarding it all hours of the day and the night. Similarly, Rabbi Chaim Volozhin zt”l said, in our days, the yeshiva is the palace of the king. It is fitting that there be guards, namely students learning Torah, at all times. (Talelei Oros by Rabbi Yissachar Dov Rubin)

The Mishkan was surrounded by the different tribes. When the Jews travelled in the desert, they travelled in a special formation. The first to journey was the group of shevatim, led by the tribe of Yehudah. Why didn’t the tribe of Reuven, the firstborn, travel first? The Kli Yakar explains that the group of the tribes of Yehudah, Yissachar and Zevulun went first because those tribes were the pillars of Torah learning. The Kli Yakar continues, that they traveled first, because they should be the first in war, for the wars of Israel are not fought with the sword and spear. Rather, they are armed with the merit of the Torah.

The Talmud (Sotah 35A) quotes a pasuk from Tehillim that Dovid Hamelech called the words of Torah, songs. He was so emotionally enraptured by learning Torah that it was like listening to beautiful music. Rashi explains that when Dovid had to flee for his life, from his enemies, he would find refuge in learning Torah, like the sweetest music.

We would think that Dovid Hamelech’s comparison of Torah to music was very special, indicating the emotional impact Torah had on him. However, Hashem was displeased with this comparison.  Since Dovid Hamelech referred to the words of Torah as “songs”, he was punished by the calamity of Uza. The Maharsha explains that one is not constantly singing, whereas learning Torah requires constant and total involvement.  Even when a person goes to sleep, his mind should be working on Torah. There are stories about various gedolim whose Torah was such a part of them that they were heard to be murmuring words of Torah while they were in the middle of sleeping. Hashem said to Dovid, “Matters of Torah are so difficult and demanding that one whose eyes stray from the Torah even for a moment will forget it, and you call them songs? For this reason I will cause you to stumble in a matter that even schoolchildren know, as it is written with regard to the wagons brought to the Tabernacle: “And to the descendants of Kohath he did not give, because the service of the holy things belongs to them; they carry them upon their shoulders” (Numbers 7:9). And although the Ark clearly must be carried on people’s shoulders, Dovid Hamelech erred and brought it in a wagon.

Torah is our life. Rabbi Akiva compared one who does not learn to a fish out of water. He cannot truly live.

What does one do if he is not gifted and feels that he will never truly understand Torah even if he would toil in it his entire life? Obviously, this person will not put as much time or energy into learning Torah because he feels that he will not achieve anything.  Rav Moshe Feinstein zt”l (quoted in Talelei Oros) has an answer for this person. He explains that Parshas Bamidbar is always read on the Shabbos before the holiday of Shavuos. Why? The parsha discusses the census that was taken in the desert. In the census, every Jew was visited personally, and counted by Moshe and Aharon. That showed the importance of every single Jew. Every Jew matters!

Every Jew’s contribution to Torah learning is important!
Everyone should dedicate himself to Torah to the best of his ability!
Let’s all commit ourselves to learn extra Torah this Sunday night,
when Jews worldwide, stay up all night, learning Torah.
Even if we are only able to learn for a short time, it is valuable to ourselves,
our People, and, of course, to Hashem.

Parshas Pinchas

Sometimes We Love, Sometimes We Mourn!

“The daughters of Tzelafchad, who was the son of Chefer, the son of Gilad, the son of Machir, the son of Menashe from the family of Menashe, son of Yosef—came forward. …”. (Bamidbar 27:1)

Throughout our history, Jews have always loved and longed for Eretz Yisroel, the Land of Israel. Many Jews throughout our history made the perilous land and sea journey to immigrate to Eretz Yisroel. Rabbi Yehudah HaLevi (born in Spain in the year 1080) was one of those who made this dangerous journey.  He is known for his beautiful poetry which is included in our machzorim and in the kinnos that we recite on Tisha B’Av. Many of his poems showed his intense love of and longing for Eretz Yisroel.

In this parsha, the Jews were counted in order to determine how to divide the Land of Israel. After hearing that Eretz Yisroel would only be given to the males (Ba’al Haturim), the daughters of Tzelafchad approached Moshe. They presented a well-thought out argument (see Midrash) that they should inherit the portion that their father would have received had he been alive. Moshe presented their case to Hashem.  Hashem said that they were correct and can inherit a portion in the Land of Israel.

Rashi explains what motivated the daughters of Tzelafchad to protest. The pasuk (Bamidbar 27:1) tells us their genealogy. They were the daughters of Tzelafchad, the son of Chefer, who was the son of Gilad, who was the son of Machir, who was the son of Menashe. The pasuk adds that they were from the family of Menashe, the son of Yosef.  The Torah just said that they came from Menashe. Why does the Torah add those seemingly extra words? Rashi says that the Torah is explaining their motivation. They were not motivated by the desire for material gain but by their passionate love for Eretz Yisroel. They loved the land as did their ancestor, Yosef Hatzadik. The Malbim concurs and adds that half of the tribe of Menashe was willing to accept their inheritance on the other side of the Jordan River, outside the Land of Israel. The daughters of Tzelafchad could easily have taken their inheritance from that land. However, because of their burning love for Eretz Yisroel, they wanted to join the other half of the tribe of Menashe in the Land of Israel. This part of shevet Menashe loved Eretz Yisroel and only wanted an inheritance there. This is what the pasuk means. Bnos Tzelafchad were “from the family of Menashe”, from the half of shevet Menashe who passionately loved Eretz Yisroel just as Yosef Hatzadik had loved Eretz Yisroel.

Nowadays, throughout our prayers we beg Hashem to restore The Land of Israel to its former glory. We ask Hashem to restore the holy city of Jerusalem, together with the third and eternal Beis HaMikdash (speedily in our days).

We mourn daily for the destruction of the first and second Beis HaMikdash. During these upcoming Three Weeks (from the 17^th of Tamuz until the ninth of Av) we go into a greater state of mourning. Our mourning intensifies as we approach the 9^th of Av when both Temples were destroyed.

The great French leader, Napoleon Bonaparte was once was traveling through a small Jewish town in Europe.  He entered a synagogue and saw an incredible sight.  Men and women were sitting on the floor on small stools, holding candles and weeping, while reading from books.  Napoleon wondered what misfortune had happened to make the people so sad.  A French Jewish officer explained that the Jewish people gathered once a year to fast and pray on the day that marks the destruction of the Jewish people’s two Temples.  The same scene in this town is happening in all Jewish communities. Napoleon wondered how long ago the Temples were destroyed. When he heard that it was over 2,000 years, Napoleon said that a nation that cries and fasts for over 2,000 years for their land and Temple will surely be rewarded with the rebuilding of their Temple.

Those of us who sincerely mourn the destruction and limit our pleasures in the memory of the destruction are promised that we will be privileged to rejoice in the final rebuilding of the Third Beis Hamikdash. Isaiah the prophet (Isaiah 66:10) said, “Rejoice with Jerusalem and be glad with her, all of you who love her. Rejoice with her with great rejoicing, all of you who mourn for her”. Why did Isaiah the prophet add the word “great”? Rabbi Yaakob Kranz zt”l, known as the Dubno Maggid, answered this question in the form of a moshol (see The Maggid of Dubno and his Parables by Benno Heinemann).

A man went on a long ocean voyage to a far-off land. After many months, his family heard that he had drowned when his ship sunk. The man’s wife and children were devastated. His friends were deeply shocked. Even those who barely knew him were stunned. As months passed, the memory of him grew fainter. His immediate family, however, never stopped mourning for him. One day, the door to his home opened and he walked in! The news of his arrival spread through the town. Those people who had barely known him were happy for his family that he was alive. His close friends were overjoyed. His family were happy beyond words. Those who had mourned the most when they thought he had died, were the happiest now that he had returned alive.

Similarly, Jews, who love Eretz Yisroel and mourn the Beis HaMikdash, will rejoice when the Third Beis HaMikdash will be rebuilt. The degree of the rejoicing will depend on the degree of their sorrow about the destruction. Those who feel sorrow, now, will rejoice, then. Those who mourn intensely, will indeed rejoice, “with great rejoicing”.  

Parshas Chukas-Balak

Be Happy With What You Have While You Have It!

“All the Jewish People arrived at the wilderness of Tzin…. Miriam died there and was buried there…” (Bamidbar 20: 1,2)

Reuven and Sara Shapiro were brother and sister.  Reuven was 11 years old and Sara was 9. Early one morning they were awakened by the sound of their doorbell ringing. They ran to their bedroom window to see who was at the door. A truck driver looked up and told them that he had a delivery for them. Reuven and Sara noticed that his truck had huge pictures of cookies and doughnuts on it. They ran down and opened the door. [When I tell this story at JEP Shabbatons, I always warn the children that in real life, they should never open their door for a stranger]. The driver returned to his truck and brought in boxes and boxes, which he put down in the living room. Reuven and Sara started opening the boxes. They could not believe what they were looking at. There were doughnuts of every flavor along with all varieties of cookies, cakes, and pies. They called all their friends to join them in eating these yummy desserts. They shared it throughout the day. Early the next morning, they were awakened by the sound of a doorbell ringing. They ran to their bedroom window to see who was at the door. A truck driver looked up and told them that he had a delivery for them. Reuven and Sara noticed that his truck had huge pictures of games and electronics. The driver brought in boxes and boxes, which he put down in the living room. Reuven & Sara opened boxes full of the latest board and electronic games. They called all their friends to play with all the games.  Meanwhile, they finished eating the delicious cakes from the day before. The next morning, the same thing happened.  This time the truck driver delivered different flavors of ice cream together with frozen desserts. The routine repeated itself for two weeks. Each day, Reuven and Sara excitedly opened their front door. Two weeks later, Reuven had some friends sleeping over at his house. Early the next morning, the doorbell starting ringing. Reuven & Sara heard it and turned over in bed. Reuven’s friends went to the window and saw the truck outside. When they told Reuven, he yawned and told them to have the driver put the boxes in the living room.

What happened? Why weren’t Reuven & Sara excited about the delivery this time? The answer is that they were already used to it coming.  They expected it. Therefore, it was no longer special and exciting. Hashem delivers the greatest gift to us every single morning. Hashem gives us life, by returning our neshama, our soul daily. We should be excited beyond belief, every morning.  We should thank Hashem with excitement, each time.  But many of us do not. Why? We are used to it.  We expect it. It is not new to us, so the excitement has worn off.

The Jewish People, in the desert, had their needs miraculously taken care of. For forty years they received water daily, via a well that traveled with them. Three million people and their animals had their needs taken care of. Yet, not once in those 40 years does the Torah record that they showed appreciation for the miraculous well (Kli Yakar Bamidbar 21:17).

Furthermore, the Torah tells us (Bamidbar20:1) that Moshe’s sister, Miriam died. The very next pasuk says that the Jewish People no longer had water. Rashi connects these 2 psukim, teaching us that the well which supplied water for these 40 years was in the merit of Miriam.  When Miriam died, the well no longer provided the Jewish People with water. The Kli Yakar asks why the well stopped supplying water. He answers that it was as a punishment for the Jews’ lack of appreciation for Miriam. They did not fully appreciate her for the great person that she was and for the great merit that she had earned. Apparently, the Kli Yakar says, the Jews did not eulogize Miriam properly and her memory was quickly forgotten. [After Moshe and Aharon died, it says that the Jewish People cried. It does not say that after Miriam’s death.] As a result, the water stopped flowing. Then the Jewish People realized Miriam’s greatness and that they had received this miraculous source of water only in her merit.

When things are going well, we may tend to take these blessings for granted. We may not fully appreciate our good fortune, as we come to expect it. We may not thank Hashem, as we should, for each kindness that He bestows upon us. Sometimes, only after the blessing is taken away, do we fully appreciate it, retroactively. This trait of not fully appreciating what we have also applies to our relationships with people. Sometimes we do not fully appreciate our loved ones until they are no longer with us.

Be happy with what you have while you still have it! Do not wait until it is gone to appreciate it. Constantly thinking about all the good that Hashem does for you will help you to value it and not take it for granted. Also, do likewise and appreciate your loved ones while they are still with you.

Parshas Korach

I Don’t Agree With You! Let’s Fight!

“Moshe sent for Dosson and Aviram, sons of Eliav, and they said, ‘“We will not come!’” (Bamidbar 16:12)

I recently heard a story from Rabbi Dovid Ashear. A woman walked into a bakery in Israel, one erev Shabbos. As she was thinking about what to buy, the salesman told her that there was a special sale and she could get two cakes for the price of one. She liked the idea but said that she only needed one cake. He suggested that she give the second cake to someone else. She said she could give one to her sister, but she did not have the time to bring it to her. When the salesman heard where her sister lived, he said that he lived only a few blocks away and could deliver it for her. He wrote the name and the address. She wrote a note saying, “From your sister.  Have a great Shabbos!” After Shabbos, she was surprised that her sister did not call her to thank her for the cake. She called her sister and was surprised to hear that the cake had not been delivered. The next morning, she called the bakery to find out what had happened. The salesman said that he had delivered the cake to the address she had given him, to her sister on the first floor. She said, “But my sister lives on the third floor!” Apparently, there were two people at that address with the same last name and the cake was delivered to the “wrong” person. This woman got very curious and looked in the phone book for the phone number of the person who did get the cake. She called and asked the woman who answered the phone if she had a received a cake that erev Shabbos. There was a long pause and the sound of crying could be heard. When the woman composed herself, she said that what they got was more than just a cake. Apparently, her husband had not spoken to his sister for over 10 years because of a petty argument. When he saw the cake from “his” sister, he thought she wanted to make peace and renew the relationship. He called his sister to thank her. That phone call was the catalyst in bringing her husband and his sister back to a peaceful and loving relationship.

Machlokes, arguments are terrible. It can break apart friendships and loving relationships.

The verdict was in. He was guilty of murder.  The judge ordered that he be hung, together with his children, ages 8, 6, 2, and 5 months.

We would be astonished if we heard such a verdict. Why were the guilty man’s children also punished? They did not do anything! Yet, this is what occurred in this week’s Parsha. Korach instigated a machlokes, a dispute, against Moshe Rabbeinu. The catalyst of the dispute was jealousy. Korach wanted a prestigious position. He did not receive it because Hashem had told Moshe to give the position to someone else. Korach was very upset and rallied followers against Moshe. Korach claimed that since the entire Jewish People were holy, all had equal rights to get positions of leadership.  Moshe had no right to give all the leadership positions to those whom he chose. Korach denied that Hashem had told Moshe whom to appoint. Korach also mocked Moshe, falsely claiming that Moshe had made up certain mitzvos (see Rashi 16:1). This machlokes was exceedingly serious because it was more than an attack on Moshe.  It was an attack on Hashem and disputed the validity of the Torah.

The Chofetz Chaim zt”l (Sefer Shmiras Halashon, Shar Hazchira perek 15) discusses the severity of machlokes. It is destructive in terms of relationships as well as being spiritually destructive. It can lead to such serious sins as slander, jealousy, hatred, and even embarrassing a person in public. It is so serious that even young children are punished for their parent’s misdeeds. The Chofetz Chaim quotes the Midrash Tanchuma on this parsha showing how severe machlokes is. The Midrash points out that that the Heavenly Court does not punish a child until he is 20 years old. The Jewish courts do not punish a child until the age of bar or bas mitzvah. Yet, even babies that are one day old, are punished due to machlokes.

Dosson and Aviram, the other leaders of this dispute, stood outside their tents with their wives, children, and infants. They were arrogant and steadfast not to give-in to Moshe. Previously, they had told Moshe that they would not meet with Moshe to discuss their position. They said (Bamidbar 15:16), ”…Even if you gouge out our eyes [and blind us], we will not come!” Their refusal to end the machlokes resulted in their entire families – even the babies, being punished by being swallowed up by the earth.

The Chofetz Chaim says, we see that being involved in a machlokes harms one’s own children. Unfortunately, there are people who ignore that fact. A most unbelievable story about this occurred in the Chofetz Chaim’s own town of Radin (as quoted in Rabbi Frand on the Parshah). Two people got into a very heated argument, which got worse and worse. The children of those two people started mysteriously dying. The Chofetz Chaim approached one of the disputants, pleading with him to stop this machlokes. The Chofetz Chaim told the man that his involvement in the machlokes was causing the death of his children! Incredulously, the man refused to back down. He said that he was going to win the argument even if it meant that all his children would die as punishment!!

The Chofetz Chaim continues (Sefer Shmiras Halashon, Shar Hazchira perek 17) that you should not join a machlokes even to side with a close relative or even to side with your father! Even if your father is correct and the other person is in error, you should still not join the machlokes. [Obviously, if you are able, you should try to peacefully resolve and stop the machlokes.] The Midrash Yalkut Shimoni says that this is what saved Korach’s children from being punished and being swallowed up by the earth. They had initially joined their father in the machlokes against Moshe. They were sitting with their father when Moshe approached. They thought to themselves that if they would stand to show honor to Moshe it would be a disgrace to their father. That would be a problem since they had the mitzvah to honor their father. On the other hand, there was a mitzvah to stand for an elder and a Torah scholar.  They decided to stand to show honor to Moshe. At that moment they felt repentance in their hearts. They felt that this machlokes was wrong. Those feelings of repentance saved their lives.

Imagine the tremendous reward in store for one who ends strife and brings peace. Imagine if one of the people involved in the dispute will swallow his pride and apologize, even though he feels he is totally correct. The reward in store for him will be incalculable. He will also become a happier person when the dispute ends.

Rav Altar Henach Leibowitz zt”l highlights the obligation to try to stop a feud.  Moshe tried to end the feud by asking Dosson and Aviram, two of the leaders of the feud, to come to him (Bamidbar 16:12). They refused to come. So, Moshe went to them. Rashi quotes the Gemora (Sanhedrin page 110A) that Moshe’s actions teach us not to perpetuate a machlokes. Rashi in Sanhedrin adds that Moshe put aside his own honor, in his attempt to foster peace, by going to the home of the instigators. Rav Altar Henach Leibowitz explains that Moshe’s actions were not merely a praiseworthy action. Rather, he was fulfilling a halachic obligation! Had Moshe not gone, every second of delay would have been considered as if he had perpetuated the machlokes! He would have been going against the Torah that states “…One should not act like Korach and his company” (Bamidbar 17:5. See Rashi). One might have thought that it was beneath the dignity of Moshe, the leader of Klal Yisroel, to go seek out those had started a machlokes with him. We learn from this that Moshe acted properly and was even obligated to do what he had done.

No one benefits from machlokes. Often, machlokes starts from a minor and unimportant disagreement that grows and grows into a full-fledged feud. It adds physical stress which is not healthy for a person’s heart. It causes separation between loved ones. It can bring serious harm to one’s children. Furthermore, it is a sin to perpetuate a machlokes. In a machlokes, both sides share some of the blame. However, this machlokes was unique. Moshe was 100% correct! Korach was 100% wrong! If one who was totally right, could initiate an attempt to bring peace then certainly we, who are not 100% right, can initiate the attempt to bring peace.

Initiating peace is more than being nice; it is the halacha!